How Far Can Your Love Go?

Some hate it....others love it. Some are scared of it...others are willing to take the plunge. Why? Why not?


What am I talking about you ask? Well here it is:


LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS


Let's start with reasons on why people HATE it:


The very first reason why is because you don't get to see that particular person at the times that you would actually want to....the times you need them, they might be there mentally...but many, like me, would want the physical...


Another reason is because of TRUST (this is for the ones with TRUST ISSUES)...the constant wondering of:


"Am I the only one?"

"Is he/she sleeping with someone else?"

"Could he be seeing someone else when he/she is not seeing me?"


And so on and so forth....I mean, it's already a stress when the person is right in your city...but it's a WHOLE 'nother ballgame when they're MILES away from you.


And FINALLY, we ALL will have those moments where our hormones will kick in (Don't act like it doesn't) and we would need some GROWN UP time with that person...because you wouldn't cheat.........if you're FAITHFUL! o_-


Now before I get to the part on why people LOVE it...I have to prove this point on why LDRs can & cannot work....


CAN:

Firstly, Long Distance Relationships, personally, can work MORE EFFICIENTLY if the relationship started with the two in the same area...mainly because ANYBODY CAN SAY ANYTHING....BUT EVERYBODY CAN'T DO EVERYTHING!! Now a days, people can say that they are whatever you want and can very well be the EXACT OPPOSITE...trust me, I've experienced it and I ONLY speak from experience. People, like myself, want to see, feel, taste, hear, & feel EVERYTHING that is being written in a text or said in a chat.


Secondly, it depends HEAVILY on how big you & your partner's heart is....once you have experienced all that the person has told & promised you and you wind up together....do you think that you will be able to keep the love & the relationship if one of you has to move?


This is where the point of my title plays: HOW FAR CAN YOUR LOVE GO?


This is also the beginning of why LDRs CAN'T work...

CANNOT:
Depending on the trust, love, and relationship between you two is the only way you can REALLY decipher if LDR with this person is or is not for you...

NOTE: Long Distance Relationships are NOT for everyone!

If you are the type who has a HUGE trust issue: NO

If you are the type who can't have JUST ONE: NO

If you are highly social & demand your partner EVERY hour on the hour: NO


The main attribute when it comes to Long Distance Relationships is TRUST


Now let's say you two are not in the same state when you start talking...this is where I'm going to prove my point of:

LOVE HARD BUT DON'T LOVE EASY!!!!


Trying the long distance relationship over the internet is a HIGH RISK...but some people take them because everyone knows that they are DESTINED for LOVE....REAL LOVE!


PLEASE TAKE NOTE TO THIS:

Everything that is being said to you will more than likely be EVERYTHING you want to hear (or in most cases, see on the screen), But do NOT be so quick into believing EVERYTHING that is being said or don't immediately say I LOVE YOU when they tell you....


NO ONE CAN TRULY LOVE YOU IF THEY HAVE NEVER SEEN YOU (Relationship-wise)

-> Friendship-wise is okay because you're in love with what the person says & how they roll...but at the same time LOVE is a BIG WORD & must be handled & said carefully and appropriately


You have to grasp if the person you're dealing with is serious about being in a relationship with you..here are some things to take note of in that person:

1. You are the 1st person they talk to in the morning & the last person at night

2. They ask you when you want to see them (When people are willing to see you it's something to consider)

3. Occasional random messages that are not to you but are about you (i.e "I really wanna see him/her", "I can't wait to see him/her", etc.)


But once again, most if not all, are the "I'll believe it when I see it" type...but are not the "I wanna make it work" type...


Taking chances are a 50/50 chance but it's only based on how serious & determined you are to find love...


If both of you are the risk-takers, hardcore love seekers, & are trust-worthy then LDR is for you...so when you set the date to see each other you can then see if everything that was said between the two is being shown...


Now this is where your patience counts....you can't let your setbacks change your course...patience is a virtue and can very well pay off. Love is out there...it may not be there the first or second....or maybe even 10th time....but if you are serious for love...it'll come..


So in the end... the chance of Long Distance Relationships working is solely on you & your partner...evaluate yourself and your partner on these qualities:

1. Level of Trust

2. Seriousness, Determination, & Willingness

3. Patience

4. Risk-Taking

5. Endurability

Now...if you don't like LDRs...it's something with self...not others... *Kanye Shrug* :)

-All Love from a DISTANCE-